The survey revealed that more than 60% of Americans aged 18- 45 had at least one-night stand in their life. Not everyone wants to commit or wait for years to find the right person to explore their sexuality.
Sexual intercourse is not only about physical pleasure, but it also can provide you with numerous health benefits. According to studies, sex can help reduce the risk of heart disease, burn calories, lower blood pressure, and strengthen muscles. Also, some studies suggest that regular sexual activity can correlate with improved ability to express emotions and increased satisfaction with mental health.
That’s why women, as well as men, shouldn’t be afraid of the idea of having a one-night stand.
Obviously, sex outside of the relationship is not for everyone. But, it doesn’t mean it will not work for you. One-night stand can help you forget about your normal life full of duties and responsibilities and just have fun. If you are looking for a fling and nothing else, then you should experiment, try the best sex positions and be selfish.
If it’s your first time doing it, you might want to learn more about it before going to the bar and meeting your sex god. Setting some rules for yourself will help you to avoid the walk of shame in the early morning and a broken heart.
1. Talk To Yourself
Before you start looking for your ‘victim’, you should prepare yourself emotionally. Usually, one-night stand doesn’t lead to a serious relationship. The man you are going to sleep with will not necessarily call you back the next day. That’s the whole point of having sex outside of the relationship. If you hope for a different outcome, you might want to give up the whole idea.
Be honest with yourself before things get more complicated. Is it sex you are interested in? Or you are just trying to get over your break up? Keep in mind that no-strings-attached sex can make you even more confused and regretful in case you are depressed at this point.
If you want to try this experience only because you want to feel desired and needed at least for the night, consider doing something nice for yourself first. You may get validation from another person but only for a short time.
You are the only person who can actually make you happy; so don’t ask for this other people, especially strangers in the bar. There’s a chance that they will not be able to make you feel better about yourself.
2. Make Your Intentions Clear
There are a lot of places where you can find someone for a great one-night stand. For instance, you can go to the bar or use a dating app. Also, take a look at the people around you.
It’s better to get to know someone before you invite them to your place. So, make sure to hang out at the bar together for a few hours. If there is something you don’t like about that person, you can always go away. That’s why meeting on neutral territory is a must.
During the conversation, let him know that you are not looking for a relationship. Take his feelings into consideration, as well. Once you realize that you are both on the same page, you can invite him over to your place.
3. Invite Him To Your Place
Inviting a stranger to your place is safer than going to his own (safety is a number one priority when having a one-night stand).
Make sure your apartment is clean and quiet. Another important thing is to let your best friend know about the plan. Send them a message saying who you are with and where (his or your place). You might also want to ask your friend to call you in a few hours in order to check if everything is fine with you.
Also, consider establishing some rules. For instance, tell a man if you want him to stay over or not. Keep in mind, cuddling during the night might create a false sense of intimacy and connection. That’s why you should prepare to let him go right after sex.
4. Use Protection
It’s difficult to estimate how many sexual partners this man had before meeting you. And you can never be sure that he slept only with healthy girls. Keep in mind, besides unwanted pregnancy, there is also a chance to get STDs.
So, even if he looks like a decent person and assures you that ‘he is clean’, use a condom anyway. It’s a stranger after all. So, using condoms can help you avoid any unpleasant reminders of this experience.
If he refuses to wear a condom, let him know that you will not have sex with him on these terms. Your health and well-being are more important than his ideas about unprotected sex. To prevent pregnancy, you can also consider birth control pills, IUD, or diaphragm. Make an appointment with your gynaecologist to learn more about it.
5. Let Him Go
As stated above, one-night stand doesn’t imply exchanging numbers or starting a relationship. So, don’t develop expectations when inviting someone over. In order to prevent falling for a one night stand, don’t stalk him on social media or try to meet again.
The Bottom Line
One-night stand can be an exciting and beneficial experience. Nonetheless, not everybody is prepared for no-strings-attached sex. Before you decide to invite someone to your place, ask yourself if you are emotionally ready for this. If you want just sex and nothing else, make sure to tell your date about the plans. Also, always use protection and try to avoid developing feelings for him.
